Moving Abroad To Ghana When You Have Little Ones
We felt very strongly about coming to Ghana and whilst we knew it wasn’t necessarily going to be a bed of roses everyday, the burden in our hearts was very strong. No matter what the neigh-sayers were saying or going to say next, we were determined to move abroad to Ghana. In my short existence on this earth I have very quickly come to realise that you can not make everyone happy all the time. Someone, somewhere will always think you are making a bad decision. I find that these are the people who are the most resistant to change.
On the other hand they could also have possibly been right in that, we come to Ghana, fail miserably and run back to the UK with our tails between our legs. If that happens? So what?! It’s a life experience that we would never have been able to have had and a great story to remind the children of later in life.
Peoples main concern seemed to be directed at the children. My children at the time were 5, 4 and 1.5.
“They will miss their friends” My response: “They will make more friends”
“What if they get sick?” “My response “They can get sick anywhere and even if they do we can take them to hospital”
“What about school?” My response “ *crickets* “ I‘m tired of defending my choice to homeschool.
“They will not be able to adjust to a new country” My response “Children are very resilient and they are already really excited about moving abroad”
And the list goes on…and on…and on…
Well as I said 3.5 years later and we are still in Ghana. It definitely hasn’t been easy all the time but we have all learned some great life lessons, met some amazing people and broadened our horizons. I have come to realise what my giftings are, finally! And my husband thinks that beyond the sky is the limit.
The childrens thinking has changed dramatically. They see people who are perhaps not as well off as we are and some that are much richer than we are. It makes them think. They are beginning to think about entrepreneurial businesses (without even knowing it). They have seen so much construction around them that I think they could build a house themselves (haha, well perhaps not quite).
When we first moved to Ghana the children thought of it as an extended holiday, it took a while to get routines going as there was a lot of ups and downs to be had. We were potentially learning a new culture, where to shop, how to get around and finding somewhere to live. It was tough at first but the children were oblivious to it all. For them, they only cared about the outside space to ride their bicycles, how good the food was and the fact that they could wear their sunglasses and didn’t need a jacket to go out.
My point out of all of this is. If you are using your children as an excuse for not moving abroad, it really doesn’t have to be the main reason. Believe me they will adjust even faster than you will. Your experience of moving to another country will open their minds exponentially. Don’t let negative people stop you from trying something new. Even if it turns out to be a mistake, its your mistake to make. As humans we make mistakes everyday.
To all the people that still think we are on an extended holiday. Tomorrow we will probably go for a swim…for homeschool purposes you understand. Theses are the joys of homeschooling and moving abroad. *wink!